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23rd April, 2025

Don’t give away your power.

We cannot control what another person does or says. We can’t control our automatic emotional responses. But we always get to control the next thing. We have that power. This is the power: how we respond within ourselves and what we do next. That is our point of power. We always have a choice in our secondary internal approach (to escalate or to begin to manage) and our external approach (to act/respond or not and how we respond or act). Always a choice. Don’t give the power away or outsource it.

22nd April, 2025

Over or under-stimulated?

Being out of stimulation balance is tough. Too little stimulation and it can be a flat, lonely or hamster-wheel vibe. If that’s the case, we need more people, action and novelty. If we are overstimulated that may result in irritability, overwhelm, anxiety, shutdown or outburst. It’s good to know our preferred stimulation level (which will change over time and context) and know our signs of balance or imbalance within the nervous system. Aim for balance and all will be well.

17th April, 2025

Only one priority!

What’s most important? Trying to focus on doing or improving too many things usually results in not changing much at all and feeling worse. Choose one focus only. The law of momentum means that once we do the most important thing, other things begin to change or improve as a result. Motion leads to more motion. Just choose one.

16th April, 2025

No need to fix or control:

Most things work themselves out if left alone. Many of us take precipitous action that may build momentum on a “problem”, inadvertently making it bigger in mind or in reality. The zen approach is to watch and wait. Observe without judgement and act only when necessary. Not easy and certainly requires a calm and balanced wise mind. Remember your half-smile with open hands and let your physiology be chill as a first step in anything.

15th April, 2025

Detached action:

Detached action is doing the thing we need to do without attaching to how it “should” feel or what outcome it “should” create. We just focus on OUR controllables only. We can’t always control how we feel but we always have a choice in what we do or do not do. Take the actions and release the expectations today.

14th April, 2025

The open smiling hands:

There’s a simple technique that helps the body and nervous system know it’s safe. All we need to do is raise a half smile (Mona Lisa style!) and put our hands in open position, palms up. That’s all. Even if something is wrong, sit down, start with open smiling hands and take a breath. From a physiology of greater safety the mind will make better decisions. All is well.

10th April, 2025

Let people think what they think:

All humans have spontaneous thoughts that mostly pass by like clouds. Some people hang on to thoughts and ruminate, causing stronger feelings or opinions. We have no control over that. But we can choose the thoughts we lock on to. Decide to focus on the controllables, not the stuff in our imaginations or the imaginations of others.

16th October, 2024

Lose the urgency:

When there’s been a lot of adrenalin and stress, the nervous system changes gears and suddenly everything begins to feel urgent. The system pumps harder, relaxing becomes impossible and sleep is broken due to subconscious hyper-vigilance. Slow it down. Breathe slowly. Walk slowly. Begin to think by talking more slowly to yourself. Activate the brake pedal and lose the urgency. It’s all ok. It all works out. Relax and just do your thing and let the universe take care of the rest. It always does.

15th October, 2024

Think well of yourself.

The essence of healthy self-belief is to hold ourselves in high regard while also knowing our flaws. It’s not either/or, it’s both and. Some people are grandiose, seeing themselves above others. Some only see their flaws and feel less than. The balance lies in the middle; we are human and imperfect and awesome no matter what. Keep the healthy balance today and think well of yourself!

14th October, 2024

Be open and curious!

The practices of openness and curiosity are good for the soul. Being open means being accepting, willing and able to see, hear or do whatever, within the context of our values and ethics. Being curious means being interested, wanting to know, see, hear or do, while also being accepting of how it unfolds. Those traits help keep us young, and zen, and joyful. They rid us of expectations, rigidity, stubbornness and pessimism. They also constitute a good antidote to boredom or monotony. Remind yourself today: be open, be curious. It’s good for the body and the mind.

11th October, 2024

Calm heart installation:

Listen now, your eyes like a laser pointer on my words, as I talk to you, here, and there where you are, and your subconscious mind can listen closely, as you relax now, breathing slowly in, heart calm, and holding, and now letting go, releasing all tension with the out-breath, that’s right, feel your body softening, letting go all the pent-up junk, all the stuff, all the gunk, all the unwanted mess, as your heart starts to ease, becoming much more relaxed, more balanced, happy, smiling heart, all sensations very pleasant, very comfortable, minding its own business, doing its thing, we relax, we surrender to the flow of good, we remain in this positive, calm, relaxed, smiling heart as we move forward. Enjoy.

10th October, 2024

On rudeness:

One-off rudeness is probably a symptom of stress. Many of us can become a little more impatient and a little less aware when we are overloaded. However, when rudeness is a consistent pattern, it can be due to lack of social skills and self-awareness, often combined with a degree of self-importance and entitlement. Self-importance is never great. It leads to grandiosity and is always judgment-impairing. This trait can be both hereditary, learned and enabled. Either way it’s always about the person who’s being rude. Nothing to do with the recipient in most cases. It’s not personal. Most things aren’t. But beware of self-importance and grandiosity in people: it usually leads to trouble and drama. Glide by and hang with the appropriately humble gang.

9th October, 2024

Reminder of temporary:

This difficulty is temporary. It will pass, probably without you having to do much at all. Sometimes the best action is no action. Either way it will be clear what needs to be done (or not done). Be calm, be still and just be.

8th October, 2024

The neutral narrator:

We all narrate our lives, including commentary on past, present and future. The first thoughts are usually automatic; we don’t choose to think them, they just bubble up straight from the unconscious and appear in our mind. While we don’t have a choice in that part, we do have a choice about the second part. We are the narrator. Once the first auto thought has bubbled up, we can label it as just a thought or even an intrusive or unhelpful thought. If it’s a good-feeling thought, leave it alone or build on it. If not, label it as such and decide to move on. Only build on good-feeling thoughts. If it’s not great then the narrator calls excess baggage and the thought can be neutrally discarded. Only keep the good stuff today!

7th October, 2024

Power move:

It’s time to stand in your power. Hold yourself in a strong positive physiology and remember that you are a force to be reckoned with! Be bold, be badass, be kickass. You’ve got this.

4th October, 2024

To calm you:

You know, and I know too, that more calm is needed, both inside and outside, one affects the other, all integrated, it’s all one; so breathe in now, easily, loosely, comfortably holding, and now let it go, breathing out all tension, exiting all stress, that’s right, nothing bothers you, nothing disturbs you now, you relax, you let go, and all parts of the system now continue to generate calm; as you breathe, the deeper you go, the better you feel, much more calm energy for the day, you will, better and better with each powerful breath. And so it is.

3rd October, 2024

Repeat after me:

I’m willing to see the perfection in this and I choose peace. Say it again. Just be willing.

2nd October, 2024

Internal complaining:

Many people (not all) have mastered the art of not complaining endlessly out loud to others. We don’t want to be a “downer” so we manage the narrative to sound balanced. But. What about the inner narrative?? Is it balanced so as not to be a “downer”??? It’s important to be aware and honest about what we feel and it’s important to maintain a balanced perspective in order to feel good. Monitor internal complaining and make sure the inner commentary is calm and balanced so that you feel calm and balanced.

1st October, 2024

Harmony heals.

When we are bothered by something, all we can feel is trouble and conflict. But if we allow a perspective of harmony to take over, we receive an elevated viewpoint and we can know that the situation is resolving itself in some way, perhaps more easily than we can perceive. Harmony out there, harmony in here. Be with the harmony today and let it resolve things for you.

30th September, 2024

Mindset check:

Before we take flight we check instruments, and you know that the most important instrument for doing well is a helpful mindset. The helpful mindset focuses only on what is required, while also being aware of all the positive aspects of the day. Just show up, do what you need to do and keep a positive attitude. Check your instruments all day to stay centred on what matters and what to enjoy.

26th September, 2024

On intelligence:

I’ve noticed many people either questioning their intelligence or using “academic” standards to judge their own intelligence. Of course there are many definitions but intelligence is really about being aware, resourceful and adaptable. It’s about awareness of what is going on and what is required, it’s being resourceful about finding information, solutions or assistance in any form, and it’s about adapting either self or environment in order to meet the needs of the situation. It’s got nothing to do with scores on tests or marks at school. Integrate that intelligence into your self-concept today.

25th September, 2024

Regrets?

Whatever happened is the only thing that could have happened, given all the context, history and circumstances. Stuff is complicated. Let it be what it was. Today is always a new day.

24th September, 2024

Do less.

Sometimes the best action is no action. Let it be what it is.

23rd September, 2024

Keep your heart calm!

If you monitor heart rate, it’s easy to see how the slings and arrows of the day can send the heart into full pump quite easily. Counteract that with parasympathetic processes. Take a few slow deep breaths. Do a physiological audible sigh. Do 4 7 8 breathing. Say “happy smiling heart” and notice the relaxing effect of that. Above all, keep it chill today

19th September, 2024

Expectations?

Whether it’s our own expectations of ourselves, our expectations of others, or others’ expectations of us, when the balance isn’t right, there will be inner (and maybe outer) conflict. For more inner peace and harmony, please pause and consider all the expectations in the situation at hand. Moderate the expectations. More expectations can mean more anxiety, distress and sometimes resentment. We can have preferred options of course, but the feeling of a preferred option is different from an expectation. Note the difference and zen out today.

18th September, 2024

Slow it.

Slow down. Breathe. Take a moment. Give thanks for the moment. Remind yourself of 3 great things about you or your life or anything at all. Take those great things with you today. And breathe.

17th September, 2024

Instructions from your coach:

The instructions will come to you. The questions are first: how do you want to feel, given current circumstances? What do you need to think and do differently in order to meet your intended state? What do you need to stop doing or do less of? What have you done in the past that might help? Who else can you speak to or get support from? What mantra do you need to loop in mind to help you stay focused? Well, those are your coach’s instructions. Get out there and do it! You’ve totally got this! Go team!

16th September, 2024

Excitement and fun!

Sometimes we forget about excitement and fun in the midst of adulting. Put excitement and fun front and centre today: it’s a state of mind and you’ll find it if you have intention and awareness. Look for opportunities amongst the small stuff and keep excitement and fun on the agenda.

13th September, 2024

Create in mind:

Imagine, for a moment, that by relaxing, by opening your mind, and following my helpful instructions, that you can enhance that inner intelligence, that powerful creative part of the mind that sees, and hears, and knows what doesn’t even exist yet, full of ideas and possibilities, so relax deeply right now, breathing in clear calm, and holding, now breathing out any and all tensions, any resistance now exits the system, nothing bothers you now, nothing disturbs you, you clear all the channels, all blockages released, and now the inner creativity, the intelligence, the key information comes flowing through just like a clear river of yes, rushing to all the places in your system that need input, never too much, just the right intelligence at the right time, always. Breathe in and feel the clear calm to keep the flow of intelligent creativity circulating today.

12th September, 2024

Remember: release tension

We carry so much tension that we are unaware of. Several times a day, just check in: relax your jaw, just let it hang loose. Relax your neck and shoulder muscles, let them go soft. Relax your hands. No holding on tight. Relax your chest and stomach. Take a breath and release with a physiological sigh. Relax your legs, especially back of thigh. And relax the feet. They carry a load and need time to rejuvenate. Breathe out all tension and allow the bubbles of joy to take its place bit by bit. With calm joy, anything is possible.

11th September, 2024

Need a reminder??

We all need reminders. Mostly we need reminders to take the mind away from constant problem “solving” or mind reading or comparison thoughts. Reminders to notice what is going well, to note who we like and appreciate, to take in all the great and beautiful stuff in the world, and how nature makes things in a perfect way and that aspects of nature are not constantly comparing themselves to other parts of nature and feeling not as good as they used to be or not as good as others. Nature just is. And we are part of nature. Perfect as is and looked after by virtue of being part of the whole. All is well.

10th September, 2024

Listen to inner guidance!

Call it intel, call it intuition, call it a sense of just knowing, but don’t ignore or override. We get these messages and they function as insight, as signals to wait, to stop and to go. Please watch and listen.

9th September, 2024

Note this down: today is great!

Please write it down and keep reminding yourself. It’s a great day. Over the next few hours, there will be further evidence that today is great. Your day improves as you look for that evidence! Good things are already happening. Please make sure to notice and record the greatness.

6th September, 2024

Software upgrade for today:

As you read this, you may may notice yourself becoming very curious about your mind body needing software upgrades, so listen now, and begin to slowly breathe in, getting ready, holding it, and now, breathing out all resistance, and in, clearing the space, and now out, exiting any excess, that’s right, like defrag, just keeping what is needed, letting go any excess to requirements here, as you relax, you go deeper, ready now for upgrade, and I want you now in your mind’s eye to click on YES, and the upgrade begins to install itself, moving to 10%, you feel more and more calm, 20%, you feel clear in mind, 30%, you feel increasingly sharp in thought, 40%, your emotions are balanced, 50%, your body is comfortable, 70%, your energy builds nicely, 90%, you are ready and focused, and now, 100%, completion has finalised, you are uplifted and levelled up ready for action. Feel the extra power and use it well.

5th September, 2024

You got a perfect score!

The thing you did, you got a perfect score! It may have seemed like something small but it may have more positive consequences than you know. Perfect score for you! Take credit and take the win. Collect the wins! Any win or miracle is great. Take it and enjoy!

4th September, 2024

Repeat after me:

Things are always working out for me. The universe has my back and I am taken care of. Repeat often and with feeling. You know it’s true.

3rd September, 2024

Write this down and repeat daily:

I’m always in the right place at the right time with the right people doing the right action. You can shorten it to RIGHT PLACE, RIGHT PEOPLE, RIGHT TIME, RIGHT ACTION. Feels better when we know that. Take charge of the self-fulfilling prophecies and affirm certainty about the good stuff.

2nd September, 2024

Path to peace!

Wherever you’re going, please remind yourself to choose the path to peace. With any choice, think about the inner peace of the present and the future, and it will probably be the right decision. And we can move along that pathway with a mindset of inner peace as well. Peace is both the journey and the destination. Keep on choosing peace today.

29th August, 2024

How about you??

You’re feeling responsible for so many things and so many people. So much to do, so many people to please. And how about you though? Are you caring for yourself? What do you need more of? Less of? Which demands do you need to back away from? Which pleasures do you need to move towards? Walk through the open doors and go where the love is today. You are awesome and all choices should reflect that truth.

28th August, 2024

Why we have trouble changing habits:

If you’ve been trying to start something you think is good for you, or stop something you feel is bad for you, you’ll know that it can be more difficult than expected. This is because imagination always trumps willpower. Whatever we consciously and subconsciously believe about the thing we want to start or stop in terms of the pleasure or pain we will lose or gain will determine how it goes. When making a change, be truly honest about the pleasure in doing vs not doing, as well as the pain of doing vs not doing. The new behaviors or actions need to be authentically linked with reducing pain and gaining pleasure. If things are stuck, then there’s a mismatch in what you feel will be the pleasure/pain consequences. Once our mind and imagination are aligned, change becomes more natural. Our subconscious beliefs about pleasure and pain trigger our decisions so let’s be conscious about it.

27th August, 2024

World-awfulness mood effects?

Many people have spoken of being very affected by goings on in the world, often to the point of feeling sad, hopeless or despairing. In the past, it was easier to avoid; just don’t watch the news or buy newspapers. Now, it’s impossible to avoid if you own a phone or “smart” device. The Germans have a word for it: “Weltschmerz”, which translates to “world pain”, a feeling of exhaustion or upset about world affairs as well as fear for the future. Weltschmerz is mainly felt by optimists and idealists who see the world as it could be, who long for something peaceful, cooperative and productive. If we experience Weltschmerz, we need to know it’s because we care, a lot. And we need to protect our sensitivity by reducing and limiting world input, by switching off and not immersing ourselves in news. We probably need to spend more time in nature and beauty to ground ourselves. And perhaps we need to feel we are doing something that helps the world be a better place in a small way. Being friendly to a stranger, creating art, providing assistance to somebody; there are many ways to improve the world at a micro level. And micro leads to macro. Be aware of Weltzschmerz and be aware of managing and antidoting it. The triggers are real, and so are the balancing actions.

26th August, 2024

Magician, enthuse thyself!

When it comes to our own minds, we are the magicians. We can of course leave inner states just as they are, or when required, we can perform some magic to turn straw into gold. One of the straw to gold processes is generating enthusiasm from a state of neutrality or lower. As a magician, we use what we have. No need for coins or rabbits (unless you have them, then, why not?!) But we can use the ingredients of sunshine, music, nature, appreciative thoughts, love, ideas and the chemistry of other people or personalities. To be enthused is a state of energy and possibility. Take what you need here, generate using all your powers, and enthuse yourself now. May it fuel your day with curiosity and enjoyment.

23rd August, 2024

Re-balance:

You know, and I know too, that there have been certain elements lately, various elements that are sitting out of balance, so listen now, breathing slowly in, then holding, and now releasing, breathing slowly out, as all the bothersome elements leave your system, any thoughts or feelings or memories you no longer need, just letting them fade and dissolve, that’s right, and the spotlight moves to what truly matters, you, and the balance in your life, things begin to shift around, all true priorities highlighted in bright yellow, you can’t miss it, and it’s easy, natural, you can just comfortably move towards those things now, no rush, no hurry or worry, just moving towards where the arrow points. You will arrive soon. Enjoy.

22nd August, 2024

Don’t go back in time!

Unless it’s a good memory that brings good feelings, it’s best to stay away from time travel. Many people romanticise the past and overrate their past selves, leading to a miserable contrast effect in the here and now. We can enjoy memories of the past for sure. But if it causes pain or a hankering for “what was” (or at least our idealised version of it) then it’s probably not helpful. Be in the now and look towards the future. The past has no possibilities, it’s over and done with and we can enjoy the sweet nostalgia if we like it. But for productive and optimism purposes, the now and the future is where it’s at. So if you’re dwelling on unhelpful past romanticisation remember that movie and remember that line: “we need to go back to the future!”

21th August, 2024

Anti procrast plan:

Procrastination isn’t fun, isn’t comfortable, isn’t pleasant. It’s a weird anxious avoidance splashed with guilt and false promises and empty reassurance. The only antidote is a solid plan. A plan of when to start, a plan of how to start, a plan to make it bearable, a plan to get it done. Usually we procrastinate on things we don’t really enjoy. Firstly we need to neutralise the task. It’s neither good nor bad, it’s just a task to be done. We also must stop feeding the avoidance urge with negative whinging inner talk. “This sucks, this is stupid, I hate this, why do I have to do it anyway”, “I can’t do this”, “it’s too much”, “I’m not in the right headspace”, “I’m better off doing it when I feel better tomorrow”. Blah blah blah. We’ve all heard it, we’ve all said it. And that’s ok if it doesn’t bother you or affect your life. But if it bothers you, make a plan to be neutral, stop the inner complaining, add music or people or a buddy accountability system (even if your buddy is doing a different task) and decide to get it done without inner commentary. Just a task to be completed. Break it into chunks if needed, by time or by section. It really isn’t that bad, whatever it is. The pattern is fueled by inner negativity and resentment of the task combined with avoidance of it until time makes it more unbearable not to do the thing. Thoughts and emotions can be managed. Your choice really.

20th August, 2024

We can’t please everyone.

People have opinions. These opinions are based on THEIR psychology, on THEIR personal history, on THEIR experience and THEIR internalised rules for THEIR life. It really has nothing to do with you. There are those who enjoy criticising, controlling and judging. Nothing to do with you. Or, maybe whatever you’re about just isn’t their cup of tea. Nothing personal. If our expectation is broad and complete approval then we need to water down the recipe to some boring beige thing that nobody will feel anything about. We just don’t need to please everyone. Just do you and those who get it will get it. That’s enough.

19th August, 2024

The power of positive expectancy:

Positive expectancy is a great feeling. It feels hopeful, a sense of anticipating things going well and hitting the mark. The only issue with positive expectancy is when we apply it to uncontrollable events and (always uncontrollable) people. Our positive expectancy needs to be connected to our skills, our talents, our ability to manage events or relational ups and downs, our ability to make the best in any situation, our ability to be strong when needed and express emotions when needed. You have every reason to feel positive expectancy regarding all the things you can feel, think and do. It’s all a choice and you have every right to self-efficacy. Expect the best from yourself today!

15th August, 2024

Sensory overload awareness:

For those of us who are sensitive and/or neurodivergent, sensory overload is a real thing. It could be noise, people, odors (whether perfumes or outdoor fumes), visual stimuli, excessive device viewing, TV or other background noise or just too much of everything together. The result can be brain fog, exhaustion, physical pain, panic, lack of focus, headaches, emotional distress, irritation or some other kind of meltdown. The key is awareness. We need to know that we are sensitive to overload, to try our best to prevent it where possible (knowing the strongest triggers) and to set ourselves up with exit and recovery methods without self-judgement. Recovery starts with reduction or removal of triggers, quiet and/or alone time, and plenty of self-care and compassion. The world can be loud and fast. Make sure you build in as many sensory breaks as you need.

14th August, 2024

Pull the pin on worry:

Worriers subconsciously trust their worrying as a means of preventing danger or unwanted events. For many people, worry equals love and if we don’t worry, it means we don’t care. Worry is thought to be a problem solving method (it isn’t) and a motivator (it occasionally can be, but not a fun one). Accurate problem solving can replace the worry pattern over time. It means getting a clear statement of the problem that exists right now (often there isn’t one) and division of what is controllable and not controllable (if it’s about events or others we may not have much control). Then it’s about identifying the best course of action to address the parts we do have control over, including what we might do if a worst case scenario occurs. Beyond this, mind distraction methods are more effective than going over and over fears in the mind or verbally. Be aware of how much worry thoughts circulate and begin to redirect them towards active and factual problem solving. And if there’s nothing you can do then keep the mind focused on sending peace, love and healing to all involved.

13th August, 2024

Exhaustion tolls:

Exhaustion takes toll collections in many areas of life. Exhaustion leads to a payment in energy, motivation, good cheer, sleep, comfort and calm. The emotions are depleted and the body is depleted. Often the body will produce pain due to depleted cortisol (our natural pain relief and anti inflammatory chemicals) which, combined with the awful tiredness, is even harder to cope with. Check sources of exhaustion (physical, emotional, existential, social, external and anything else) and do what you can to create balance. We can’t control everything but there are some crashes we can probably prevent or minimise. Take stock today and note where you might need to make different choices.

12th August, 2024

You’re in charge!!

You’re in charge of your approach today. You’re in charge of what you choose to focus on and how you decide to interpret that. You’re in charge of what to hold on to and what to let go. You’re in charge of what action to take or not take. You’re in the driver’s seat. Things will happen around you, events and other people will do what they do. And you’re in charge of only you and your response. Ground yourself with the reminder “I’m in charge here” and do what you need to do for your energy and inner peace today.

8th August, 2024

Avoiding tricky conversations?

There has been a noticeable increase in people avoiding conversations that might feel uncomfortable. People often protect their own comfort levels and fear upsetting or angering the other person as well so it can just seem too hard. We know with some people there is no point having the conversation or perhaps even too dangerous. But since social media and/or smart phones, somehow many people have found a method to easily avoid things. Ghosting has become more common, not just in dating but even in jobs and friendships. Not replying to messages and just disappearing is not uncommon now. Even workplace feedback as part of a developmental process is being watered down to avoid potential trouble. In some instances staff are just being frozen out or quietly not given shifts instead of getting feedback that might actually be a catalyst for workplace behavior change. Sometimes we need to have that uncomfortable conversation even if it’s hard, even if the other person might disagree. It’s a part of the adult communication skillset. Let’s all be willing to talk about it, whatever it is.

7th August, 2024

Be careful what you say!

Most of us have a fair bit of chatter going on in the mind, directed at ourselves, other people and events, future and past. What you say in there is powerful. No need to be super-positive if you’re not feeling it but to chatter in super-negative or critical ways is harmful to both mood and cognitive expectations. Keep it neutral or above neutral. If the best you can do is “I’m ok” or “it’s ok” then that can be a big achievement. Be very aware of the “it’s ok” effect and notice how it assists with balanced nervous system and brain cognitive pathways. Training the brain for a little equanimity is a helpful thing. Let it be ok today.

6th August, 2024

People-pleasing?

There are a lot of factors behind the urge to people-please. Firstly personality; agreeableness is a stable personality trait that means we prefer to say yes if possible rather than going against the grain. Secondly, if we grew up in an environment that didn’t meet our emotional needs, we tend to feel more familiarity with situations or people where their needs can be (or need to be) put first. Thirdly we have to have the cognitive ability to clearly assess the situation in the moment and be able to discern what is happening and what to say/do. Often it’s ok to people-please in the moment as long as we pause to factor in what we want/need as well. We need to create win/win relationships and mostly we can when people are emotionally mature. It’s a matter of balance and pausing to think. Check the balance today.

5th August, 2024

Just when you think:

Just when you think you know, more information comes in. Just when you think it won’t work, the tide turns. Just when you think it’s all the same, a wonderful surprise comes. Just when you think you’ve heard it all, a new idea can excite and inspire. We never know, and it’s usually better than we think. Remember to make room for the good yet to come.

1st August, 2024

Obsession vs attention:

Obsession is an inside job, with the focus of the mind looping about on some thought or fear. Attention is different, it’s the ability to take the focus of your mind and direct it outwardly to a person, place or thing. The better our skill at moderating attention, the more adept we become at emotional regulation. When there is an unhelpful inner loop, recognise it for the obsession that it is and keep moving the mind’s attention back (over and over) to something useful and external. The laser pointer is in your hands.

31st July, 2024

Just choose peace.

Whatever it is, let it go through your mind then add “and I choose peace”. We can have anything at all going on, and still choose peace. It’s not either/or, it’s both/and. Be willing to choose peace today.

30th July, 2024

Hamster wheel anhedonia?

Sometimes life can get a get a bit samey, as if you’re running on the spot or on the hamster wheel staring at the same outlook each day. They call this anhedonia, which means not feeling pleasure from things that used to feel good. Sometimes it’s seasonal, sometimes it’s too much prolonged stress, and at other times the brain is just tired. If it goes on longer than a while it can feel like depression and probably needs professional advice. But for the short-term hamster wheel vibes, make something happen. Change the scenery, or the soundtrack, or the narrative. It’s not the same unless we look for sameness. Every day is a new day, and it always will be, and nothing will ever be exactly the same. Go looking for the differences and the small pleasures today.

29th July, 2024

Dynamo vibes today!

You are the dynamo. You are a unique expression of the creative force. No matter how you feel today, your essence is of great benefit and it’s enough just to be, you don’t have to do anything. Just bring your dynamo and its essence and let it chemically interact with everything else for maximum benefit for all.

26th July, 2024

Cementing good patterns:

You will have noticed, and I’ve noticed too, that there are some very helpful patterns lately, things you’ve done, and stopped doing, habits, practices and general ways of looking at you, the world, the future, plenty of room for optimism now, so relax here, breathing in slowly, deeply, and holding, and out, deeper breaths, the deeper you go, the better you feel, and the better you feel, the deeper you go, and you take credit, good things happening, new patterns of thinking and being, your subconscious mind knows exactly, continuing to breathe deeply, and your conscious mind can know that all it has to do is focus on the intention of doing what truly matters, and to move towards what feels good as well as right for you, good things happening now, faster and more, you will, staying on your chosen path and getting to places on your chosen map, you are, so be pleased with yourself, you are doing it and it all belongs to you. Stay with the force today.

25th July, 2024

Inspire yourself!

Even though there are times when humans are going through the motions of survival mode, we can always kick it up a notch with a splash of inspiration. It’s for our own benefit; it feels better when it feels better! So uplift the language, bang on the music, get out and move, hang with an excitable friend and remember to enthuse yourself today! Take the power and use it well.

24th July, 2024

We’re humans. It’s mostly good.

Amidst the widespread perfectionism messages, it’s super important to remind ourselves that we are human creatures. Being human means we’re great at some things and not so great at some things. It means we have days when we’re on fire and days when it’s all foggy up there. It means not everything will come up roses the first time, or perhaps even the second time. Repeat when necessary: Human is fine. We’re all in it together.

23rd July, 2024

It’s good enough!

Please stop with any perfectionism and made-up idealism. Whether it’s you, your life, your behavior, emotions, appearance, job, relationship, friendships, parenting, family interactions or leisure pursuits, the same rule applies: A good enough anything (and everything) is perfectly fine, or maybe even imperfectly fine, which is quite good enough. Everything you look at or think about today, remember it’s all good enough, possibly better, and definitely fine. In fact, it’s all good. Remember to notice. And again. And again.

22nd July, 2024

Listen!

It’s so easy to focus inwards, noticing the constant chatter of the mind. Our responses, our opinions, our suggestions or judgements. Sometimes though, it’s great to choose an outward focus. We can choose to watch and listen without forming opinions and let our subconscious do all the necessary work for us via our deepest values in tandem with our intuition. Let your mind rest today, watching and listening without judgement. Trust that right action will occur at the right time and maybe you won’t have to do anything at all to make it happen. Just be a wise observer today.

19th July, 2024

Brain tired?

There are times, sometimes long times, where the brain has to work very hard, carrying many puzzle pieces and mysteries, many concerns lying in piles in the background, perhaps moving in and out of foreground, so listen now, with your subconscious mind, breathing in very slowly, and holding it, and now exhale, slowly, letting all that cranked up control go, dialling back the holding on, just allowing the stuff, or it is it just stuffing, to relax, to flatten, to dissolve, it’s all ok anyway, it’s being packed up, your brain can let it go into archive now, moving all the pieces out in to long term storage, freeing up so much brain space, that’s right, it’s all moved far away now, safe, accessible when and if needed, and now you have all those gigabytes freed up, you will begin to notice much faster and smoother transmission in the mind and all systems starting right now. Stay freed up today and enjoy your improved performance.

18th July, 2024

The power of the “I don’t know”:

Humans spend their lives making up stories. Stories about what they should or shouldn’t have done, the one different decision that would have improved everything, how others are doing better, or worse, how everyone else copes easily, or doesn’t, blaming the self or others for “why” things happened. When the rumination spiral begins, a most useful go-to reminder is “I don’t know”. In other words, to stop mind reading or fortune telling or deciding we think we understand the whole picture of anything. We don’t. When it comes to the past, the future and other people (including world events and politics) there is so much we don’t know, and remembering this can help neutralise our narrative and stop the ruminating. It also keeps us in humility. There is truly so much we don’t know. And that’s ok. It’s quite reassuring not to have to know everything. Be happy in the “I don’t know” state as required today.

17th July, 2024

Beware of the “nice” trap!

Being “nice” often means we are acting from programming rather than from conscious choice. It’s often more effective to remember to be ethical, be kind, be considered, take a pause, take advice, but beware of falling prey to the “nice” fallacy. Kind and nice are not the same. Thinking about what motivates our choices helps us move towards a win-win rather than automatic people-pleasing and keeping the peace at your own peril. Stop and check true motivations before the “nice” autopilot takes charge.

16th July, 2024

Emotion awareness:

The key to managing overall stability is being aware of emotions early. Many people ignore or suppress emotions, and it’s never been easier to find distractions from what we don’t want to let ourselves feel. And then, when our defences are down, we get stressed, we get tired, we drink too much or get sick, the emotions amplify and become less manageable. If emotions are big, they tend to pile up and we are more likely to act out in a way we don’t like. We can notice daily emotions by deciding to be more aware, by actively doing regular emotional scans. If we don’t know what to look for we can get an emotion list or a mood questionnaire online as a guide. The main emotions are fear, pain, anger, shame, guilt, joy and love. Most other emotions are subsets of those. Notice, validate, observe, but don’t judge them; link to triggers if you think it helps. But listen and be guided. Awareness and understanding of our feelings is the key to equilibrium.

15th July, 2024

Step back.

Take a step back from all concerns. Remember that things work out well for you and that trying to control the uncontrollable is impossible as well as unnecessary. The universe always has your best interests in mind. Take a step back, imagining how you’d feel if you knew it was all working out for the best and everything was ok and you can just cruise. Hold on to that feeling because despite how it might look or feel, it really is ok and it is working out for the best. Go easy today.

12th July, 2024

Minor system reboot.

If things have been a little hard, or maybe even a lot hard, or a bit meh, or maybe even quite flat, then you know, and I know too, that we can easily reboot the part of your system that needs a shift, so listen now, breathing, just breathe, in, and hold it, now out slowly, easily, as you let go all the tension, all the pressure, all the concern and worry, just letting it go now, letting it dissolve into a clear puff of nothing, and we can move down the hallway, noticing how warm and well-lit that hallway is, and go over to the power switch, the master panel, and put your right hand on the reset switch, noting its colour and design, and now on my count of three I want you to push the reset switch and your system will know exactly which elements to reboot and restart; one, two, three, now activate that button now, that’s right, and your system is aware, and alive, processes are reset and warming up now, everything regrouping and improving in functionality for you now, the process has been completed, ready to do or not do what ever is required for your joy and peace today. Go forward knowing you have improved speed and efficiency in all things. Enjoy.

11th July, 2024

Forgive yourself!

Whatever you did, whatever you didn’t do, or know, or realise, or finish, or start, or like, or stop earlier or mind-read in others, it’s time to forgive yourself. You did the best you could with the resources you had at the time and we humans just don’t have crystal balls and we are not omniscient. Forgive yourself in the way that you forgive others for not being perfect. To be human is ok. Learn what you need to learn and be willing to see the bigger perspective in it all. It’s ok. You’re ok.

10th July, 2024

Start with the end in mind!

What would you like to be saying in the near future about this moment right now? When you’re reflecting back on today later, would you like to be noting certain emotional states, achievements, some tasks completed? Imagine what you’d say to others about this enjoyable, successful day and let those imagined conversations drift through your mind as though success has already occurred. And you can know too, that it has already begun.

9th July, 2024

There’s always a way.

Whatever it is: there is always a way forward. Always a way out. Always a new day. Always a fresh perspective on things. Always something to change focus. Always something that will improve things. Keep looking to find your thing.

8th July, 2024

The appreciator:

The appreciator appreciates. Appreciation is both internal and external. Internal appreciation is noticing, seeing, remembering and consciously taking in the good. The external element is complimenting, thanking, commenting on positive aspects and joining in with enthusiasm. Of course it needs to be authentic and we can always find things to authentically appreciate. Remember to notice today, and remember to say so, both to yourself and to others. Appreciation breeds inner peace, joy and connection.

5th July, 2024

Turn up the joy?

You know, and I know too, that we have many buttons and dials in the control room of the mind, and, if we release some tension and stress, we can activate, and deactivate, and re-adjust any mechanism we need to, so pause now, in the mind, breathing slowly in, holding, and now breathe out, easily, feeling stronger now, that’s right, now in your mind’s eye, you can smoothly enter the control room, it’s bright and warm in there, now move to the JOY panel, it stands out brightly in the control panel, and now turn the JOY dial up higher, not too high, just a much more balanced, more comfortable JOY level, up a tad more, and you know, turning up JOY means other things get turned down automatically, because JOY overrides those other stress-type feelings, JOY is a master controller of the best kind, so keep adjusting your JOY dial today, keep it up high, and notice things that would normally escape you, they become yours, you embrace it more, you achieve more. EnJOY your day.

4th July, 2024

Live and let live!

Live and let live is a great mantra when we observe the “unusual” or “different” choices of other people (as long as they are doing no harm). But how well do we apply live and let live to ourselves? The phrase implies we can let ourselves live freely too, along with everyone else. And yet I often notice many people judging themselves rather harshly and questioning their own quirks or choices without a lot of self-acceptance. Next time you have a moment of snap judgment with yourself, I want you to hear my words reminding you, hey, how about just live and let live?! Allowing ourselves the freedom we allow others is liberating and uplifting. Enjoy your freedom today!

4th July, 2024

Live and let live!

3rd July, 2024

Upbeat chemistry:

How can you send your chemistry into a little bit of upbeat today? Do you need to go outside more? Listen to some upbeat music? Keep your inner narrative a bit joyful or appreciative? Be around some happy people? Read or watch something funny? Upbeat is good for the soul when it’s real. Find a way to upbeat it a little today.

2nd July, 2024

Reducing cognitive load:

How many things are you carrying around in your head? A large cognitive load is one of the most tiring factors for humans. The pressure of having to hold awareness and vigilance over a range of concerns is a lot to carry, especially when a lot of it is most likely out of your control. Tap into your current cognitive load. Would you say it’s bigger than it needs to be? Consciously choose priorities by writing down all concerns. Notice which concerns you have any control over and as such, what is your action plan? Worrying isn’t a plan. We need to delineate where we can have an impact and how. A lot of the responsibility probably falls with others and despite our concerns, it’s really up to them. Focus only on one or two priorities that land within your actual circle of influence today. May your load be light.

1st July, 2024

Vibe check!

Time to check your vibe. Head up, eyes up, inner smile and upright posture. What’s your code word for today? The focus is inner peace and outer calm and just doing what you need to do. No pressure, no expectations. May today be chill.

28th June, 2024

Out of a funk:

I was just noticing, and you know it’s good to notice, just how many of us get a little funky at this time of year, so listen now, as I speak directly to your subconscious mind, and you can go inside, breathing, slowly in, and holding, and even more slowly out, letting go, releasing all resistance, all tension, all demand, listening, as you go in, noticing any elements of funk, or junk, or gunk, anything no longer needed, just letting all the mess clear away, dissolving into the nothingness it came from, and gradually, slowly, you sense the space, the clarity, the edge returning, the ability to choose, to know that it’s ok to hibernate a little, and you can still choose enjoyment, choose activity, choose fun, choose joy, new ways of finding joy for you now, and you will keep thinking of new things, automatically, without effort or strain, easily and successfully now, right thoughts, right choices, right action, you will. Enjoy.

27th June, 2024

Your brain on pain:

Pain means stress. Pain means tension. We know pain triggers stress chemicals and physical tension, just as stress and tension can trigger pain. The biggest source of stress and tension is usually people, especially situations where we perceive unfairness, confusion, mistreatment or frustration. Some human problems are difficult (or impossible) to solve, and our brains don’t like that. We want harmony, we want peace, we want to be seen and validated for who we are. Start with validating the self, and restoring inner harmony. When pain is there, ask for emotional clues. If there was an unsolved human situation causing tension or frustration or stress, who would it be? How can you reframe or accept the imperfection of this ambivalent relationship? Check in with your responses and emotions today and validate any tense moments. Your brain needs to know you’re listening to any distress signals.

26th June, 2024

The rigid mind:

Our mind is limited by rigidity in any form. When we can be open, flexible, accepting of perspective and possibilities then we are in the best position to take wise action. Rigid mind can be expressed by sticking to one opinion, or insisting an opinion is right or factual even though it’s just an opinion, or arguing for one’s limitations and why things can’t be done or can’t be changed. It’s hard to have a discussion with a rigid person; their beliefs are rock solid and the mind may not be open to new content. Being open is what keeps us connected with youthfulness and freedom. There’s always a new idea and there’s always a new or more helpful way of looking at things. We know by the feeling. When we land on another possibility it feels better emotionally. Beware of mind rigidity today and stay open to reframes and other narrative options. It’s always bigger than we think.

25th June, 2024

Reminder for you:

Be kind and supportive to yourself today. Speak kindly, be patient, be accepting and don’t compare yourself to a story you made up about others, or to a story you made up about your past self. Today’s you is great. Today’s you gets credit and praise.

24th June, 2024

Your energy lift:

Your energy lift starts with the mind. No matter how we wake up feeling, and whatever happens in the day, we can start with the thought “I’m willing to lift my energy”. We can repeat that mantra, along with “my energy is beginning to lift now”, as we pair that possibility with physiological helpers: head up, eyes up, face resolute or determined, body straight, moving forward into action mode. Think energy, notice it building up, feel your optimism tank filling and decide to have a better and more energised day. May the force be with you.

21st June, 2024

All is well.

Pause here a moment, slowing now, and listen to my voice as you repeat after me, all is well, and it is well, and it gets better, moment by moment, day by day, and now, as I talk to you, breathing slowly in, and holding, and now breathing out, slower still, that’s right, releasing all the tension, all the gunk, all the leftover blah, just letting it go, it dissolves into the air, into the nothingness it came from, leaving you calm, helping you clear, allowing space for your energy to build, and build, and generate more energy, you will, good things happening, your system listening to me, and this small software update improves your clarity, your calm, your energy now, all cells listening and upgrading, and your better day begins. Enjoy.

20th June, 2024

Opinions and judgements:

At times it’s a shock to hear just how opinionated and judgmental people are prepared to be. It’s shocking to hear them share their opinions (the personal, the political, the random!) and criticisms out loud; hard to believe they don’t feel embarrassed by their meanness and rigidity. Some people are so sure of their opinions and not a moment of doubt, perspective or critical thinking will cast a shadow over their views. All we can do is to remember that it’s a reflection of THEIR consciousness, THEIR blind spots and THEIR cognitive approach to the world. We can be interested in a detached way; interested about how they think and how their mind can seize upon such a strange take on things. We don’t need to agree, we may not need to argue or convince and we definitely don’t need to take it personally. It’s just them, it’s their brain. It’s ok that they think that; it’s a moment in time and it probably isn’t the result of a well-thought-out philosophy, it’s just a fake pearl falling out of a matchbox. Notice the silliness of it and move on. Be pleased that you are a broad thinker with an open mind who is into “live and let live”. And we can also try to be non-judgmental towards the opinionated and judgemental. It’s just their rigid rulesy mind. We can do “live and let live” with them as well. Choose inner peace today.

19th June, 2024

Taking pause:

Take a pause today. Stop. Breathe. Centre. Clear the mind of past and future. Stop. No hurry, no worry. Take the pause and notice the peace. Repeat.

18th June, 2024

Know your worth!

It’s important that you know your worth! Unique, like a fingerprint, there is nobody just like you. You have a unique set of skills and gifts and a unique energy that you bring to the world. It’s irrelevant whether everyone likes you all the time; the mission is to bring the unique self and know that we align with who we align with; it’s not really ours to control. Everyone has a unique mission and it’s silly to compare ours with the missions of others; we have no idea of their true situation or circumstances. We may see some of their outer world but we cannot know their inner world. We are all part of nature and we all have huge, immeasurable worth. If you ever question your worth (which we should not, ever) then the answer (please remember and repeat) is that you are worthy as fuxk! Repeat as necessary and know it.

17th June, 2024

Generating enthusiasm:

Sometimes enthusiasm is involuntary. We just feel an urge, an excitement, a desire to act. Automatic enthusiasm can be great but we can also be enthusiastic about things that we later realise were not so great for us. Learning to generate or boost enthusiasm consciously is a skill of maturity: choosing wisely and then increasing the emotional enthusiasm towards the required action. What do you choose to be enthusiastic about today? Focus on how good it will be, deliberately keeping your heart and mind attuned to the positive and uplifting aspects. We can have deliberate control over enthusiasm, just by choosing truth and evidence for good and peppering it with Yes emotional feelings in the chest. Pump it up today and enthuse yourself towards whatever you want. It’s also more fun that way.

14th June, 2024

Expanding the peace balloon:

You know, and I know too, that many people are concerned about things, things in the world, things between people, things internally, so listen now, as we start with one, one is all we can do, and one is plenty, focusing now, and breathing slowly in, breathing deep peace into your inner balloon, I wonder what colour it is, and holding, now breathing out, letting go of all the pissed-off build-up, releasing all anger and blame, releasing criticism, letting your balloon fill with each breath of inner peace, golden air, maybe even rainbow-coloured glittery air, as your subconscious mind can begin to notice all of the little gifts around you, gifts that expand your peace, gifts that fill your balloon with love, gifts that remind you of all those good things in the world, you can notice more and more things as each day arrives, and your inner balloon of peace continues to expand, bringing more joy, more love, and more peace to the world, as all our balloons begin to move together and unite into oneness. Enjoy.

13th June, 2024

Which emoji?

Choose an emoji to remind you of what to focus on or how you want to be today. Sometimes a symbol or picture is stronger than a word, like a short-hand code for the mind. It might be a facial emoji, but you can be creative and use the emoji as a metaphor, or just choose something that makes you feel good.

12th June, 2024

Body signals:

Have you noticed that for many of us, our emotional body signals are more than just physical? The body alerts us in some form when we are tired, overwhelmed, in inner conflict, heading out of a safety zone, and when in need of new challenges. If we ignore early warning signs, the signals get louder and impossible to ignore. When the bodymind says No, we probably need to listen quickly. It’s called self respect and it means treating the bodymind as something important, somebody at least as important to please as those other people we’re intent on pleasing. Tune into the signals today and say No where you need to say No. Your bodymind will respond quickly to the best decisions for you.

11th June, 2024

Jet fuel for the mind:

The jet fuel of the mind is about the right idea. It’s the idea that lights up your tree, the one that feels exciting and compelling. It could be a simple idea for today, like approaching everything with a calm mind, or a zen attitude or with optimism. Optimism is a high jet fuel concept, based on the idea of optimising your interpretations of events and opportunities with a firm basis in factual evidence and with feet firmly on the ground. If you’re not feeling great, it’s probably a day for zen; just chop wood and carry water, be with what you’re doing and do one thing consciously. If you are a little more energised, then adopt optimism as your jet fuel and elevate your thoughts and actions towards the exciting possibilities. Either way, you have your jet fuel for the day. Go well and choose wisely.

7th June, 2024

The calming cure.

You know, and I know too, that a calm system makes everything better, and it can be hard, can it not, to stay calm in this strange world, so listen now, coming back to now, back here, where everything is fine, it’s all ok, breathing in, planets held in place, breathing out, you don’t have to do anything right now, nothing to prove, the pressure releases, all the people in your mind are released into their highest good, trusting the flow of the universe, all things working together for good, all controls being reset now to calm, to clear, to comfort, everything turned down to the right levels for you now, you relax, you breathe freely, you are free, you are safe, it’s all ok and you can go about today with optimal calm. Enjoy.

6th June, 2024

Remember to come back.

Come back here. As in come back to now. Our human minds are always jumping back and forward in time, taking our emotions on some kind of rollercoaster. The future, which doesn’t actually exist at all yet, can be exciting or scary, depending on what story we make up about it, and the past, which can be pleasant or aggravating, depending on which memories we ruminate on, are both imaginary. When our attention is focused on now, everything is real, everything is ok. Cancel the future, blur the past towards pleasant nostalgia and return the mind to now. Now is good.

5th June, 2024

Need to speak up?

There’s often a situation in which we need to speak up and say what we think and feel. The urge to “keep the peace” is useful at times, but in the long term, relational intelligence is about speaking the truth with love, and being willing to discuss the hard stuff, even if it’s uncomfortable. If we don’t speak the truth, we lack inner peace and important relationships can begin to feel inauthentic or one-sided. There are times to shut up and there are times to speak the truth with as much respect and kindness as we can muster. Traits of people-pleasing or perfectionism can get in the way but it’s our job to work through these patterns and learn to speak up when it matters. Is there something you need to say? Give voice to it soon for the greater good.

4th June, 2024

Don’t. Do. Perfect.

Perfect sucks. Perfectionism evolves for many reasons, and is common among people who experienced stress during childhood. It’s true that perfectionism can be a successful survival mechanism for a critical or chaotic environment. It can begin as pressure to do things well so that no one has to worry about you or disapprove of you. Or even so you can escape as a “success”. For some, the habit of holding yourself to those standards becomes a life pattern.

Many perfectionists exist in a permanent state of urgency and tension, where inner demands exceed outer capacity. There is nothing to prove now. It’s time to be enough just because you’re already enough. The inner pressure of perfectionism is exhausting, subconsciously enraging and can manifests as pain/fatigue/emotional disturbance. Please think carefully about your inner expectations today and keep it chill.

3rd June, 2024

An agreeable day!

Today is a day where your nervous system could be quite agreeable. Agreeable means we accept what is, whether it’s a person or a happening, and decide to optimise it. It’s an attitude of mind and body that says YES. Notice any resistance you feel as events unfold and, if you choose, decide to be accepting and agreeable today. From acceptance comes choice and optimisation. Start with “is”, and work out “could be”. The possibilities are great for you today.

30th May, 2024

So hard on yourself!

You know it, you’re way harder on yourself than you ever would be on someone you cared about, and even those you may not care about. It’s quite unfair really, I mean integrity means applying the same standards or rules in an equitable way. So why should you have to be so super-perfect?? Integrity means we accept human imperfection as a norm, both in the self and in others. There are no perfect people and how boring would they be if they did exist. We also all differ in our working definition of perfection too, so the whole concept is fundamentally flawed. Just be you. Be real. Be kind. Be ethical. That’s enough. You’re awesome AF. Remind yourself of that today.

29th May, 2024

Help for feeling grounded and centered:

When you’re overwhelmed in the pressure of life, staying centered and grounded can be tricky. It’s easy to feel like the mind is agitated, disconnected and foggy. That’s a probably a sign of needing to rebalance. We can ground and centre ourselves quickly and regularly by taking a few minutes to be present. Focus on breathing, scan the body, observe surroundings, and let go of distractions, releasing them into space. Any physical activity can also help with grounding, especially yoga, stretching, or a walk in nature or the city. Start with intention. It could be as simple as “right now, I will focus on remaining calm" or "I will be kind to myself” or “I am centred and grounded”. Please spend time outside, even if it's just for a few minutes. The fresh air and scenery can have a grounding effect. Write down your thoughts and feelings to help process emotion and bring mental clarity. Take breaks from your devices and social media to reconnect with yourself and the world around you. Remember, staying grounded is ongoing and takes regular practice. Small, consistent actions can keep you solid. How do you stay centered? Share your tips below!

28th May, 2024

Tension?

Are you carrying tension in mind and body? The pressures of life can lead to us forgetting to breathe, forgetting to relax, forgetting to re-balance. Notice your muscles around neck, shoulder, jaw. Let them drop, relax your shoulders and allow your jaw to slacken. Remember also to take deeper breaths into the belly region. Deep slow breaths help balance the body and mind. Breathe in twice through the nose then breathe out of the mouth into a long sigh. A physiological sigh reduces sympathetic nervous activity. Breathe into the calm and breathe out all of the tension. Keep your body loose today to help the mind maintain its peace.

27th May, 2024

More self-appreciation!

Today has to start with self-acceptance and move quickly to self-appreciation. No comparisons, no criticisms and no focus on any perceived gaps. You are intelligent, resourceful, creative and open. You seek information and you aim to feel good. You have integrity. That’s enough. You are awesome as fuxk and you need to take every opportunity to appreciate yourself today. Starting now!

24th May, 2024

To feel good again:

If you’d like to feel better, any kind of better, all kinds are welcome, then listen now, slowing all system settings, that’s right, just turn them down a tad, breathing, in, then hold, and out slowly, imagining a long thin plume of coloured air leaving your lips, all the built up gunk, all the stuff from others, the weight of life, the future that doesn’t even exist really, the cares and worries all leaving your system in that plume of coloured air now, leaving only space and calm; nothing bothers you now, nothing disturbs you, and you can get back to who you truly are, the essence of YOU, creative, intelligent, resourceful and vital, you are, and you can feel it building, the more calm, the more good feelings, the slower you go, the better you feel, and you do feel good, somewhere in there, building more and more over time, vitality and aliveness building and building now, and you can go about your day knowing it’s regenerating, always. Go well.

23rd May, 2024

The priority is always calm.

If you’re wondering where to start, or how to decide, or which way to approach things, the priority is always to be calm. With a calm system comes clarity. In a relaxed state we can collate the facts, our needs, the needs of key others, the pros, the cons, and, most important of all, what we feel in our heart and what we know in our gut. Tune out the noise and chaos and give your thoughts and feelings the space they need to be heard. Listen in to your truth. The soul knows what it wants; we just need to be quiet, ask the questions, and actually listen to and act on the answers. Calm is the way.

22nd May, 2024

New thinking:

When we’re stuck on solving something, the mind often stays on a familiar thought pathway, going over the same information and the same concerns. Stuck states need new input. Ideally, we can leave the “problem” temporarily, relax, do something else, and come back with a fresh mind. That’s why we often see things anew after a good night’s sleep. But if it feels more urgent (and in truth, problems often feel more urgent than they really are) then opening our minds to new input and new thinking is required. New input via books, podcasts, music (amazing how lyrics can trigger new perspective) and talking to other people, preferably wise people. The right idea can come to us via the strangest places; billboards, observing nature, words on trucks on the road, a line in a movie or tv series. Be open to new thinking today and relax your mind to let input through from whichever source it happens to be. Ideas are everywhere.